Sunday, September 6, 2009

My Kids, My Teachers!



I am constantly learning so much from my children but this week I learned especially a lot! When I woke up I thought it was a normal day, Merik, however had other plans! Immediately he was a disaster and wouldn't let me enter the kitchen! Well that progressed into a full on fit that then took a hour to do a 2 minute time-out! I was so exhausted and frustrated! I sat him on my lap and with him crying and saying he was "sorry mommy, I not do it again" I had hope. Well my hope didn't last long when we walked back into the kitchen (still neither of us having anything to eat) and because I couldn't hold him while he drank his shake he turned to me and dumped it all over the floor! I just stood there. I didn't even know what to do! I was stunned and immediately defeated as a mother! Whose child does that? So again we started the time-out process with him running out, and me standing him in the corner again until I was so fed up I decided I was done and he could stay in his room until he decided to be in time-out. Well....his door doesn't have a lock on it (or didn't that day, but yes it does now) so I had to stand there and hold it shut with all of my strength-and he's strong! Meanwhile poor Karma is crying for attention and because Merik's out-of-control ranting and screaming is scary. I finally couldn't hold the door or my tears any longer so I grabbed Karma and we went to call my mom! After some reassuring words and great advice I felt ready to deal with Merik but very discouraged as a mom! This is my only job and I'm obviously failing if he'd act like that. Needless to say it was a VERY long day as a mother and as me. Later that day, I was trying to pick up the disaster of a house and I heard this excited voice from the play room. As I walked in I saw a beaming face and he announced "Mommy, I cleaned all by myself!" I knelt down next to him and just started to cry! My crazy, naughty, or as my grandma calls him, exuberant little boy was so sweet and kind hearted! I told him thank you and how much that meant to me; and he told me that he needed to tell Heavenly Father that he'd cleaned by himself. I was speechless as he knelt down in the middle of the playroom floor and offered the most innocent and heartfelt prayer. It was so simple! "Heavenly Father, I cleaned up all by myself and mommy cried! I love you. Say these things..." Well I thought I was crying before? Wow! I learned so much from my children and from his prayer I learned that I need to pray not just in repentance, not just in asking, and not just in gratitude for the big things. But I need to tell my Heavenly Father when I succeed and do things right so he can let me feel proud. I love my kids!

7 comments:

Heather said...

Oh, that was what I needed to hear! It's hard being a mom sometimes and I hope I can have moments like that with Brennan when he gets older. You're great Shawntae!

Mindi said...

I'm glad you posted that story. Every kid dumps smoothie on the kitchen floor, well mine all have. You are doing great at your "job", don't be so hard on yourself.

Chelsey said...

Okay...that made me cry. How sweet is he and the video of Karma is so cute too! I'm excited to see you guys. I'll be out there in about a week for two weeks so I'll call you!

ERK and MRK said...

Oh my goodness, thanks so much for posting this, I'm totally crying myself reading this. Oh the little lessons we learn from these darling children!

Ryan and Chrystal said...

Yup tears falling from my eyes right now. Thanks for the story.
My Ellie is a LOT like your Merrik. I've been using the "Love and logic" system on her and it is working. Google it and their website will come up. Good luck.

Mekelle and Jake said...

yes...im crying too, just thought I'd add my tears to the bunch! thats cute shawntae..i hope my kids grow up as cute as yours! i love u

Jan said...

OH, I love you guys! I'm so glad that you have a little boy too - I too am learning so much from my children. I'm in tears and wishing that you lived next door so we could help each other more. You are a fab mom and I aspire to be you btw!!! :D